A Tragedy, the loss of a Child.

Well things are up on the Asperger front.  My Gay 17 year old Aspie hooked up online with a 21 year old Man from Canada.  They chatted online for two months and decided they were going to get married.

QA lot of drama ensued, me being kicked on and off of his facebook, kicked on and off his fiancées facebook and being told off by his fiancée to name a bit.  Well he begged and pleaded for me to buy him a ticket to Canada so he could go live with him.  OK get this he’s a 17 year old high school drop out.  On probation for Assault with me, supposed to be going to anger management training and taking his medicine for Bi-polar.

So I buy him an early Christmas gift which he begs me for, I give it to him early , he professes to love it.  The day comes for him to leave and I buy him dinner for his trip and he gives me the best hug I have had in years, then I leave.  Fully Expecting to hear from him when he hits Canada.

I hear from his fiancées dad that he has made it to the border but he has lied to them saying that hes visiting his dad because he doesn’t have a passport.    That they may be calling me.  They did I did as I was asked and kept to the story (boy was I wrong in hindsight) and they let my son through without a passport.

My son makes it to a town in Canada and is told to wait there until 730 for his fiancées dad.  He cant wait hes scared he tells his fiancée, so his fiancée tells him to hitch-hike the 90 miles to Ottowa.  So what does he do he hitchhikes.  When His fiancées dad hears this he sends a cop out that he knows and they track him down and bring him to Ottowa.  Meanwhile I haven’t heard hide nor hair from him.

Today three days later I call the dad to get a status and get his machine.  I come back to work to find an email from my son saying he left because I stress him out, he has started a new life up there and doesn’t want me in his life anymore and by the way I am not invited to his wedding and to leave him alone forever.

I honestly don’t know what to say.  I wrote him an email asking what the meaning of all this was and that he had left on good terms, but haven’t heard back from him.  I don’t know if I ever will.  I feel like my hearts been torn out.

The Day after halloween Part 3

OK my titles are starting to sound like cheap horror movies...
I got a call at work I could hear Kole cursing and yelling at his aide to leave the house.  The aide is saying things not appropriate to say to my son when he is amped up.  Saying things like "Im not going to take you out acting like that"  I corrected him to say that "when you are calm we will go putt putt golfing."  Kole came home all pissed off from having to write words "100 times Mom, I hate that school."  Koles caregiver after reassuring calls from my family trainer finally got him calmed down.  By the time I got home at 4 they were already gone to putt putting.  During the relative peace and quiet (ok I am not counting the drama that my other sons boyfriend/fiancee was causing) I got a call from a police Captain over an iniative that I have started in the county police department here.

He wanted to discuss two things, the Autism Registry, and the Training of the local police.  He said right now they dont have funding for the Autism Registry.  OK now I have to put my grant writing skills to work.  We discussed training, what subjects would be taught and his way of getting my foot in the door by meeting with all the district Chiefs at the Chiefs meeting this month.  He also gave me some selectmen to contact for funding.  All in all we had a good conversation.

Kole came home from his favorite putt putt clutching a bag from Burger King (great there goes the dinner I cooked).  His other Aide knows not to let him buy Burger King without asking me.  Sometimes I feel like I have to train these people constantly.  Its hard enough to find a good aide, but then they start to slip up and do things like making personal phone calls while at work, using your phone charger from your room, etc..Forgetting to do homework with your son.  SO now I am going to make a picture schedule for my aide.

At lease we are lucky enough to have aides.  Kole is too old for daycare and he cant be left alone.  His brother hides in his man cave all day long and refuses to help with his brother because he cant handle him.

Kole went to bed alright.  At 7 he said it was time for bed and we went into tuck him in.  some tickling later he was settled down and went to sleep.

Finally a peaceful night... to be continued